I was asked to write a piece on inspiration, for a motivational website. “It can be about anything that inspires you,” one of the editors said. I didn’t know her personally, but she said she’d like my blog.
I wrote a piece about becoming a mom solo, of course.
I wrote about my horrible dates, the overwhelming pressure I felt as I aged closer to 40, and the way people talk to single women and feel sorry for them. I wrote about how I knew that I wanted to be a mother and how I was nervous to begin my single mom journey and yet, I knew it was my only road to happiness.
I wrote about how life isn’t what you think it’s going to be and how sometimes you have to make bold choices.
I wrote about how I was inspired by myself and the way I made my life so wonderful and my dream come true. I was inspired by my beautiful boy and our love.
A few days later, the editor called me. “So, I read your piece… how do YOU feel about it?” she asked.
I felt like I was in school. “I guess it needs some more details and specifics,” I said, trying to guess at what she was going to say.
“Well, the other editor and I feel that it’s just so… over done.”
“What is?” I asked.
“You know, the whole, oh I’m 40 and can’t find love and not making it in the biz and I have so many bad dates I’m just going to have a baby on my own, thing.”
I was quiet.
“He said if he reads one more of those stories he’s gonna jump of a bridge.”
I wished he would.
“I’ll bet you can come up with something more original that inspires you,” she said.
I collected my thoughts. “If there are so many 40 somethings going through this, wouldn’t it be interesting for lots of readers? I do think this is a real, big niche in our society.”
“Umhmm,” she said, “But it’s just so over done.”
WOW. My life is SO over done?
“Right,” I said. “But this is my inspiration. This is honestly what’s made my life so beautiful. I went from being stuck to feeling alive and happy… because I’m a mom now. I went against the norm to become a mom. And I’m in my 40’s, my career is stagnant and I don’t have a partner, so…. that’s who I am. I know a lot of people would like to read about that.”
“No, no,” she said, “I understand, but I’ll bet you really dig down and think, you can find something a lot more interesting. I know you can do it.”
We hung up. I sat for a minute. I didn’t want to really think. I know what has inspired me in my life and what I want to write about. I felt grateful to have my blog, so I could write about what really inspires me, instead of what two strangers think would be fun for others to read about me.
I didn’t write another piece.
Thank YOU for reading Mom Solo.
I say keep that story and share it with your little guy when the time is right. If it’s inspirational to you, then I can only bet Spenser will love reading this story in the future. It’s not a wasted effort, it’s a making of someone special!
I am 41 and recently separated. I have two little boys. I am desperately looking for a great blog that speaks to ME and my age group…40 something year old women. I need that kind of inspiration. Thanks for writing and keep it up!
Thank you! So glad you are relating to the stories. We need to stick together!
Give me the bitch’s name.
You make me laugh!!