“I’M 28 AND THINKING OF BECOMING A MOM SOLO SOMEDAY…”one of my blog readers wrote to me.
My first thought was to respond oh you’re so young, you’ll meet someone.
And then, I caught myself.
What if this woman wants to be a Mom Solo?!?! What if that is her first choice??? What if she knows herself and knows she doesn’t want a partner?
Am I, the happy Mom Solo blogger, going to really tell her to wait to meet someone? Being a Mom Solo doesn’t have to be thought of as a Plan B. It makes sense that we all start out thinking we should have the conventional life, but then… life happens.
We are told that being in a forever romantic relationship is the goal. Maybe it is. Maybe that’s what we are meant to do. Or maybe we are just meant to simply LOVE; love a partner, love a child, love our parents and siblings, love our friends. Bonding and deepening relationships – caring- committing. Having fulfilling love.
If someone goes through their life without finding true romantic love, who is going to judge their life as not as rich as someone who was married for 50 years? Isn’t it up to each person to decide what makes them happy and what they want in their life?
Why isn’t choosing to be a Mom Solo an acceptable first choice? It’s harder some say. Well… yes, maybe in some ways…. but relationships are hard too – marriages are hard – in other ways. It’s all hard, at times.
The older I get the more I see – EVERYONE has challenges – different challenges. There are married people challenges and single people challenges. It’s just part of life.
I’ve had relationships. I’ve dated. I chose this life because I’ve always felt happier single, and I feel happiest as a mom. That’s me. It took me till I was 40 to really embrace it. This is NOT how everyone feels, of course, but if this 28 year old knows what she wants – good for her!
If someone had shown me the life I have now, when I was 28, I think I would have started as a Mom Solo sooner, myself.
We are all so lucky to have choices.
I’m so lucky I was able to choose to be a Mom Solo.
I’m so lucky.
AND!!!!!!! CHECK THIS OUT…..
My friend sent me this link to this movie trailer “First Comes Love.” I haven’t seen the movie yet, but it looks like the east coast version of my life. It made me cry and it made me even more proud of my choice and my life… and that was just the trailer!!! It looks like you can catch it on HBO!
Also, I almost named this blog “First Comes Baby,” but then Drea thought of Mom Solo.