And… the Mom Solo thing is happening in a new way – again!
For almost 3 years, I’ve just been a Mom Solo, doing my thing. Being happy and independent and stuff.
Then… preschool approached.
And, I mean, nothing has really changed. I’m the same Mom Solo. I’m the same person who decided to have a baby as a single woman. The same happy, proud, I love to be alone person…
But, I was just invited to a preschool fundraiser party. Let me be clear – we are not in preschool yet. S will start in September so these are all people I don’t know.
It’s $100 a person. It’s all current families and I assume some new ones. I looked at the RSVP evite and EVERYONE on the list is a couple. Yeah. Everyone. It says “The Jones Family” “The Smiths” “Dr. and Mrs. Johnson” and then, me with a lonely old “Ms.”
OK. So, my first thought was, “Just go alone!” I’m outgoing and secure and comfortable in awkward situations (see all my dating stories.)
But then I thought about it… and to be the only single person among like 100 people who mostly all know each other and are drinking and chatting and letting off steam… is maybe TOO awkward. I don’t want to be known as the awkward one from the party.
Second thought, “Invite a friend.” OK, so I’d have to pay for them… and yes, I’m on a budget… but I’d do it if I could think of which friend would actually want to go with me. Inviting a friend to a function like this is tricky. I mean, part of the reason to go is to meet some of the other parents. So the friend I bring would have to be very happy to let me chat with new people while at the same time, keeping me company. The perfect person to bring would be my sister… but I’d really need her to babysit, since the function begins early and she’d have to put my little guy to bed.
I have a number of handsome, young guys friends I could invite… but then, I’d be asking a young hot guy to come with me to a pre school function! It seems so wrong and weird.
Or, I can not go. Save the awkwardness. Save the $. Stay home.
I really don’t usually care about going places alone. I’ve NEVER not gone somewhere because I didn’t have a date.
I’ll probably end up going alone.
I’ll let you know.
Why do you need to go? Will this guarantee S getting into the school? If not and he is already in, I would wait until it is the new parents that will be entering when he does. Does his Dad want to go just to show up? Otherwise I would go alone and be proud. Plus you don’t know who will know who and maybe someone will set you up with a friend. Hard to believe that everyone is a couple. What about two moms or two dads, any of them at this school? What school?
We have those functions every year at my school. The first few years were fun. Now they are just painful and I won’t be able to drink. I am skipping it this year.
Surely there will be other single moms around? Anyway, I’m sure there won’t be any awkward moments, or if there are, you’ll do fine 🙂
I hate events like that. I’m an introvert and they always feel like an exercise in futility. I just wouldn’t go if I were you, but I never go to things like that anyway, lol.