“The man drives and the woman sits next to him,” said my three year old, who lives with his mother who drives him EVERYWHERE.
“What are you talking about,” I said. “I drive you and I am a woman!”
“No, the man drives and the woman sits next to him,” he insisted.
We talk about it further and I debunk all his arguments. 🙂
Another day he said: “Two boys can’t get married.”
I happily inform him, “Yes, they can. And two women can too.”
He argued with me a bit. I mention a child in his class who has two dads. “They are married.”
He then accepts my information, openly.
“It’s all about who each person loves and who they want to marry. Or you don’t have to marry anyone. Like Mommy.” I smile and shrug, playfully, to show him how great I feel not being married.
And then he tells me he loves Jasmine. A girl in his class he adores with a hearty, loyal 3 year old passion.
Another day we are playing and he says, “Now you have to be the princess.”
“But I’d like to be a knight,” I say.
“No, you can’t be a knight.”
“Why not?” I ask, with a sinking feeling.
“Because you are a girl and girls have to be princesses.”
OK. Hold the F**k on, people. How did my child, product of an unconventional family, get these old fashioned, conservative thoughts in his head? I’m supposed to be raising a modern boy. What has happened.
“What about the girl in Brave?” I said, “she has a sword and bow and arrow…”
He thought a bit and decided I was right. I could be a knight.
It’s my fault. It’s the media. It’s books, it’s stories, it’s movies – the stuff I’ve been letting him watch. The stuff I watched and the beliefs I had – until I was witness to the world changing and growing.
Time to switch it up!
I’ve been asking friends and searching the web for new books to reprogram my child. I’ve found many – click on these for the ones I’ve found:
Do you have any more to add?
Please tell me all your great books and movies so that I may get back on track!!!!!